Monthly Musing – April 2018 – Living your best life
Big daughter’s mantra at the moment is
“Live your best life”. It’s a good
mantra and one that I am happy to adopt for myself, although I am less pleased
when she whispers it into the dog’s ears and he thinks that means it’s OK for
him to commandeer the sofa when he knows perfectly
well that he’s not allowed on it.
What is it, then, your best life? Is it the same for everyone? Is your best life the same as my best life?Do we all want the same
things at the end of the day? Probably
not, and it probably doesn’t matter either, as long as we all feel that we are able to live a true and fulfilling version of our lives. I think “living your best life” is about taking the time to look around and see if what you have really is what you want, and if it isn’t then why not?
I hear the words as a reminder to
be grounded in the moment and grateful for what I can see in front of me, but
someone else might see it as a bugle call to stop wasting time and buy that
house or that car that they’ve always wanted, to speak to that person on the
bus or in the office they’ve always quite fancied but never had the courage to
talk to, or to change jobs to something that they’ve dreamed of instead of the
one their family expected them to do. Living an expected life rather
than your own natural life can be the most unfulfilling thing in the world, and
the unhappiness it can cause can be enormous. For all of us, it’s a moment to remember that this actually our “best life” as we don’t have a
spare to pull out of our back pocket if we don’t like way this one is going, so
thinking that it will all be OK at some point in the future without making the
changes we want now isn’t going to achieve anything.
So how about you? Are you living your best life already? When I stop to think about it, I think I am. I’ve got a house to live in, food to eat, money to buy more than just the essentials and a family to love who love me back. I am able to earn money doing what makes me happy, and I am free to make my own choices. I am privileged to be able to vote for what I think is right in a democratic society and if there’s something that I don’t like, I have the opportunity to get off my backside and try to do something about it. I am sure that there are more than a few people in the world who would love to be in the same position.
I’m glad that big daughter has found this
mantra now, at her age. Although we’ve
laughed about it (especially when the dog pretends that he has gone deaf so
that he doesn’t have to get off the sofa), it has a serious side and I hope
that she will continue to carry it with her into the future and to live her
best life. It’s what we want for all our
children, isn’t it?