Monthly Musing – September 2021 – Making time
I recently posted a photo of my knitting on Instagram and somebody commented that they didn’t know how I had the time to fit everything in that I do.
Neither do I – but in a lightbulb moment of clarity I realised that we can all make time for the things that we want to do most. Now, I know this is not rocket science, but actually, how often do we make the time for the things we want to do most, and how often do we prioritise something or someone else? There’s a line in a song by the band The Script that goes “spending our time like we’re millionaires” … do we fritter it away or use it wisely? Personally, I think that life should be a balance of both but it’s not always easy to step back so that we can see what we are doing with this most precious of assets.
Obviously, there are things that we all have to do – looking after people, going to work, cooking and cleaning, and I’m not suggesting that we don’t prioritise those, but if I think about my own situation, what I love to do most is knit and often there’s a point in the day when I have to remind myself that it’s OK to stop and do that. The metaphorical in-tray is never empty and some days, if I don’t make myself stop and sit down, I will keep tidying or sorting or checking emails or doing something else until suddenly it’s bedtime and then I’m cross because I feel that I haven’t had any time to switch off.
After reading the Instagram comment and my lightbulb moment, I decided to take another look at how I’m spending my time in both my days and my weeks and prioritise what makes me feel good. Whilst I am never going to say that scrubbing the bath is my favourite thing to do, I do like a clean, fresh-smelling bathroom so instead of thinking about the cleaning and what I don’t like, I’m going to start thinking about the end result and what I do like to see if that helps. I’m going to try to get better at saying ‘yes’ to offers which will make me feel good (rather than, “I’m too busy”) and ‘no’ to things which I might take on out of a feeling of obligation when I don’t really want to (funny, I never say “I’m too busy” then!). I’m going to be more mindful about what feels like a use of time that makes me happy – and yes, cleaning the bath can be that if I’m going to enjoy a long soak later! It never hurts to be reminded that we can always adjust our schedules and calendars to improve the balance of how we go through our days.
After all, I’ve only got the same 24 hours as everyone else and although there are always going to be jobs that have to be done that I would prefer not to do, some of those 24 hours should be spent doing things that I definitely do want to do – and that time is priceless.