Monthly Musing – September 2019 – Finding the “why”
I’ve got a spare few minutes and I’m scrolling through Instagram on my phone. Every other post is an advert, the current theme of which seem to be about “finding my niche”, “my purpose” or “my why”, all of which I can do with the help of a self-proclaimed expert who will help me to work out exactly why I am here on Planet Earth – as long as I hand over my credit card details and my email address.
I might mutter at the adverts, but actually, isn’t the reason that we are here something that we’d all like to know? What purpose do we have, other than doing the 9-5, the washing, the cleaning, the lawnmowing … surely in the great scheme of things, whatever or whoever created the Universe didn’t imagine that the sum total of our existence would be down to the amount that we put into the recycling bins each week!
My “life purpose” is something that I’ve thought about quite regularly from being a teenager, usually in varying tones of annoyance depending on my age at the time and what the particular circumstances of my life are at that moment. Some people just know what their life purpose is from an early age; I always envied those who were committed to a definite goal whilst still at school whilst probably like many people, I’ve veered from having absolutely no idea to being completely certain – only to change my mind later and think that maybe that’s not the reason I’m here after all. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s OK for that to happen as we all have something to offer at different stages of our lives, and these days, I’m pretty sure of my “why” – the reason that I get up in the mornings – and you won’t be surprised when I mention “socks” in the same sentence!
No, I don’t believe that my main purpose in life is to knit socks, but I do think that being able to pass on the skills to others might well be. I have spoken to so many people at Yarndale this weekend who have told me how a single ball of yarn and a set of needles has been pivotal in their lives in some way, and I am immensely proud to have been part of that process, and grateful to those who came to tell me. With so many teachers and tutorials in the world, it’s good to know that my words have been the ones that have worked for the people that I’ve spoken to, and I know that being able to add to the collective knowledge so that others can teach and learn too is one of the reasons that we’re all here. We are all teachers and learners in equal measure, and I think that our “why” always involves what we can give to someone else as much as what we might gain ourselves.
Does it matter that I didn’t know this at 13? I don’t think so, because I wouldn’t have had anything to offer. Everything happens at the right time, and that includes finding your why – with or without the use of a credit card!